Hanoi [Vietnam], February 21: For a woman who has experienced heartbreak like me, marriage is no longer something to rush into or follow a fixed timeline. Some plans need to be postponed, not because the feelings aren't strong enough, but because both want things to be more mature and stable.
The end of 2025 will also be a very busy period for both of us. I, in particular, am taking on many roles in social and community organizations, with a nearly non-stop schedule. Therefore, we agreed to rearrange the timing to be more suitable, so that the ceremony can be complete, meaningful, and not rushed. I still cherish marriage, but currently I prioritize peace, security, and long-term companionship over the pressure of completing a plan on paper.
- I'm proud that I've never given up, even when I was very tired and lonely. I've maintained a serious work ethic, lived a decent life, and never lost my integrity. My only regret is perhaps that sometimes I've been too harsh on myself, instead of allowing myself to be more lenient and rest a little more.
I don't aim for perfect balance, but rather prioritize things in stages. When I'm working, I'm fully committed; when I'm with my family, I'm completely absorbed; and when I need to slow down, I allow myself to pause and recharge.
Phi Thanh Vân is living a slower pace of life after the ordeal.
* How was Phi Thanh Vân 's Tet (Lunar New Year) this year ? Is she someone who enjoys taking care of and decorating her house during Tet?
- For me, Tet (Lunar New Year) is always a very sacred time, not just a holiday, but a time to return to family, to my roots, and to the values my parents taught me from a young age. My parents have passed away, so every Tet I cherish every moment of reunion. I still maintain the habit of personally cleaning the house, preparing the offerings, and taking care of my son, my older brother, and my nieces and nephews. My son is 9 years old this year, and I want him to feel the family atmosphere of Tet, understand tradition, and the bonds of kinship. No matter how busy I am, Tet for me must always have warmth, incense for my parents, the laughter of children, and a sense of peace.
- I used to be worried, but as I matured, I understood that the value of an artist doesn't lie in the frequency of their appearances. I slowed down to fulfill my roles as a mother, a daughter, and a social responsibility. When I return to art, I want to bring with me the depth of my life experiences, not just my outward appearance.
* How is Phi Thanh Vân different now compared to when she first started her career?
- The biggest difference is my perspective on life. Before, I lived more by emotion and a burning desire to prove myself. After many events, I now live more slowly, deeply, and responsibly. Fame or success is only a very small part of it. What matters is how I live with my family and children. I no longer put my ego first, but choose integrity, morality, and responsibility as my foundation.
'My son is my motivation'
* What is Phi Thanh Vân like in her everyday life, behind her strong image?
- I am a very family-oriented person. My parents passed away, so I cherish my older brother, my nephews and nieces even more. My 9-year-old son is my biggest motivation to live a decent life every day. I always remind myself that every action is an example for my son, so that he grows up to be loving and responsible. Life's setbacks have taught me the importance of honesty and morality in every role I play. I always remember that I am my parents' flesh and blood, so I will never allow myself to live dishonestly or harm others.
* Is there always a man silently supporting Phi Thanh Vân behind her success?
- I think companionship isn't about control or overprotection, but about respect and understanding. A mature man will understand that women also have responsibilities to their families and society. The greatest support comes from actions, not words.
What makes you want to commit to your current relationship long-term?
- It's about peace and kindness. After a breakup, women no longer seek intense emotions but rather reassurance, respect, and stability - for themselves and their children.
I long for a warm, simple wedding ceremony, filled with love and affection, with family, friends, and loved ones. I don't place much importance on formalities; all I need is for the two of us to be willing to live decently and responsibly towards each other.
* How does Phi Thanh Vân view community activities and social relationships?
- For me, community work is not a movement but a part of life. I cherish the trust of leaders, partners, and friends in community programs. I live honestly in my relationships, keeping my word and maintaining loyalty. I want to live a meaningful life, so that I won't bring shame to my parents and my son can be proud of his mother.
Source: Thanh Nien Newspaper
